What We Focus On
Our thoughts are WAY more important than most folks realize, I know a lot of people think this is pure fiction, but I can assure you from personal experience this is not the case. How happy do you think you are if you're constantly thinking about how bad everything is. Really? Is that how you want to go through this life? We have the ability to make choices and if you're interested in getting to the end of your life and looking back and saying, "Wow, I'm truly blessed and have had a fabulous time, thinking positive thoughts is paramount!
I have personally seen negative people, you know the kind; whoa's me, everyone's out to get me, life sucks, then eventually it actually does. They get fired, they get sick, they alienate all their friends it's a vicious cycle.
WHY LIVE LIKE THAT??????????????
Don't get me wrong, there are times when we are all sad or fearful, and it's important to move through the sorrow/fear of the sad/scary thing that happened, but it's the dwelling on the negative and let it define who you are that is so potentially harmful.
You Cannot Choose What Happens to You But You Can Choose How to React to What Happens!!!
Here are some links to articles/blogs for you to start your own research:
https://www.successconsciousness.com/blog/positive-attitude/positive-thinking/
https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/the-power-of-positive-thinking
https://thelawofattraction.com/power-of-positive-thinking/
https://www.betterup.com/blog/positive-thinking-benefits
https://www.tonyrobbins.com/positive-thinking/
Here's a link to The Power of Positive Thinking audiobook: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjfPSiUn3eE
https://medium.com/swlh/3-scientific-studies-that-prove-the-power-of-positive-thinking-616477838555
If you are thinking thoughts of shame, guilt, apathy, grief, fear, desire, or anger, your thoughts could lead to physical symptoms which only makes matters worse.
There is a self-debilitating concept I've heard promoted where there is a limited amount of joy, achievement, goodness, whatever, fill in the blank, and if you've gotten any of these you've somehow taken it from them.
For example, you see your neighbor pull up in their new car, what do you say to yourself? Assume you like your neighbor (which you should).
How do you react?
Wow, cool car! He totally deserves something nice, can't wait to go for a ride = I'm so happy for him!
Or
Whoa, what's he doing with that car, who does he think he is, how can he afford it? What a poser, must be mid-life crisis = I'm so jealous!
Yes, it's a simple example, but do you see the difference in the mental process there?
Life is simply too short to live one minute of it in the lower vibe emotions. How does your neighbor getting a car even affect you? It doesn't, you can be jealous or you can think, one day, I'll have something like that too. . . .or not, does it even really matter? When you get right down to it, it's just stuff and you can't take it with you when you go! I think I'd rather be enlightened, joyful, full of love and peace! And, that you can take with!!!
Full disclosure: This information is my opinion based on years of living life, having a strong curiousity level and my own experimentation. I am not a psycologist or psychic, just found happiness to be preferable to misery. Please consult with a professional if you have any questions.